thoughts on life

Disagreements vs. Arguments

Respectful disagreements are extremely helpful and productive. Arguments are a complete waste of time. But wait… aren’t they the same thing? Nowhere close. When two people have a respectful disagreement, they both share their differing points of view and both are interested in hearing and understanding the other person’s point of view. In an argument, each [...]

Context Alters Perspective

Your boss walks into the conference room and is unusually harsh towards you and your colleagues. Your boss is clearly in a bad mood. At first, you might think, “Geez… he’s being such a jerk.” …and that might be true. However, let’s say you find out later that he had a family member killed in [...]

Marie Kondo is a Genius

Over the last few weeks, my kids and I have been asking each other, “Does this spark joy?” What a simple yet profound question. If you’re not familiar with Marie Kondo, she is an international home organizing sensation. Here in the United States, she has become a household name in the last 45 days. In [...]

Why It's Difficult to "Find" Your Passion

Last week, I held office hours for members of my Inner Circle mentorship program. One of my members asked me for a process she could use to “find” her passion. She was having difficulty figuring it out and was looking for help. Some people are fortunate to figure out their passions early in life. My [...]

Risk Exposure vs. “Good” Outcomes

If you jump off the roof of your house and survive uninjured, was that a good decision? Or phrased more appropriately, was it a risk-free decision? Intuition would tell you that you were exposed to risk, even if you didn’t get hurt. I first learned about risk from McKinsey’s Financial Institutions practice. I spent a [...]

Better Relationships in 10 Seconds

To have better relationships at work and at home, stop criticizing, complaining about, or blaming the people in your life. I know… it’s hard. I’m working on this myself, and let’s say I’m falling short quite often (as my kids will tell me!). So what could you do instead? Make a… REQUEST. So instead of [...]

Winning vs. Resolving Conflicts

When you’re in a conflict with someone else, you want to define your goal clearly. Are you trying to “win” the conflict, or to “resolve” it? Although the words seem similar enough to be interchangeable, they couldn’t be more different. When you “win” a conflict, you get the outcome that you want without regard to [...]

How to be an Interesting Person

When you’re an interesting person, people want to connect with you. They want to work with you, hang out with you, or work for you. Candidly, being interesting is a major advantage in both your personal and professional lives. An interesting person can’t easily be categorized, stereotyped… or ignored. When you meet an interesting person, [...]

Words Reveal Your Thinking

For the last decade, I’ve had an ongoing fascination with linguistics. I strongly believe that the words we choose to use reflect how we think. Let’s look at the word “love.” Most people use the word love in a passive sense. Examples: I fell in love. I feel love for you. In this context, love [...]

Thanksgiving Day 2018

Today is my favorite holiday… Thanksgiving. On this day, I remind myself to give gratitude and appreciation for the many wonderful things in my life. I have a remarkable life. I am grateful to my parents for the many sacrifices they made to give me certain advantages in life. I am grateful to my friends [...]

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