self esteem

Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

Imposter syndrome occurs when the skills required for your job exceed your inaccurate self-perception of your abilities and worthiness of the job. You know you suffer from imposter syndrome when you feel like you aren’t good enough to keep the job you have or are constantly worried you’re going to lose it. Imposter syndrome occurs [...]

Diversified Self-Identity

When you take a finance class, you learn the principle of asset diversification. Diversification means you’re able to maximize your overall financial return across a wide variety of market conditions while reducing your losses. By diversifying correctly, you achieve the same level of return as a less diversified set of assets BUT have a lower [...]

Elite University Scandal

A few days ago, the FBI charged dozens of high profile celebrity and wealthy families with attempting to use bribes to get their children admitted into elite universities, including Stanford and Yale. There’s been a lot of discussion around this topic, and I thought I’d add in my comments as well. My first (tongue-in-cheek) reaction [...]

Feedback = Breakfast of Champions

The single best way to improve your skills in any endeavor is to get feedback on your performance. Two kinds of feedback exist: 1) objective 2) subjective If you want to sprint faster, you need a stopwatch that clocks how fast you are running. If you ran 100 meters twice, the first time in 12 [...]

Impaired & Borrowed Functioning

People with low self-esteem have an impaired ability to validate themselves. I know. I used to be one of them. When I was successful in my endeavors, I felt fine. When I was struggling or failing, I felt like a defective human being. (It’s healthy and normal to feel disappointed by setbacks in life; feeling [...]

Self-Esteem & Feedback

To improve in your career, you need feedback. You need to know what you’re doing well and what you need to work on. The #1 reason new associates get fired at McKinsey is the inability to take feedback. Yes, it is that important. It also makes a lot of sense. The only way to grow [...]

How to Avoid Career Self-Sabotage

In this week’s news, there’s a story of someone with fame, fortune, and power, sabotaging his own career. You see a story like this every week. This behavior happens around you every day (even if you aren’t always aware of it). It may even be something you do yourself on a smaller basis. Why does [...]

Admiration vs. Envy

When we admire someone, we appreciate and feel inspired by what they’ve accomplished. Admiration is a feeling based in appreciation, joy, and emotional generosity. When we admire someone, we allow our souls to feel nourished by what’s possible for humanity and for ourselves. When we envy someone, we see them as a standard by which [...]

Why Smart People do Stupid Things

Consulting firms prize people who are logical, analytical, and rational. However, smart people routinely make “stupid” decisions. Here’s why. Smart people are like Superman. They have superhuman abilities (in this case, intellectual). BUT, also like Superman, they have an Achilles’ heel — a vulnerability and weakness that can bring even the most superhuman of us [...]

Relief Isn't the Same Thing as Happiness

Relief occurs when feelings of anxiety and stress fade away. It is the reduction of a negative. Happiness occurs when the presence of joy exists within you and is broadcast to the outside world. Do you live your life to seek happiness or merely relief? They are NOT the same thing. I’m a big proponent [...]

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