Thoughts on Life

One of the biggest revelations I’ve learned about relationships (professional and personal), I picked up years ago from McKinsey. It was such a simple yet transformative concept. Here’s the story. At McKinsey, when I worked with a new client, I would conduct a round of initial introductory meetings with each member of the executive team. [...]

A few days ago, the FBI charged dozens of high profile celebrity and wealthy families with attempting to use bribes to get their children admitted into elite universities, including Stanford and Yale. There’s been a lot of discussion around this topic, and I thought I’d add in my comments as well. My first (tongue-in-cheek) reaction [...]

Respectful disagreements are extremely helpful and productive. Arguments are a complete waste of time. But wait… aren’t they the same thing? Nowhere close. When two people have a respectful disagreement, they both share their differing points of view and both are interested in hearing and understanding the other person’s point of view. In an argument, each [...]

One of my former bosses, John Dragoon (@jkdragoon), had a great quote that I really like. “The difference between a goal and a delusion is the deadline.” That resonated with me. I’ve since modified it slightly to read as follows: “The difference between a goal and a delusion is the existence of a plan.” To [...]

Over the last few weeks, my kids and I have been asking each other, “Does this spark joy?” What a simple yet profound question. If you’re not familiar with Marie Kondo, she is an international home organizing sensation. Here in the United States, she has become a household name in the last 45 days. In [...]

Last week, I held office hours for members of my Inner Circle mentorship program. One of my members asked me for a process she could use to “find” her passion. She was having difficulty figuring it out and was looking for help. Some people are fortunate to figure out their passions early in life. My [...]

If you jump off the roof of your house and survive uninjured, was that a good decision? Or phrased more appropriately, was it a risk-free decision? Intuition would tell you that you were exposed to risk, even if you didn’t get hurt. I first learned about risk from McKinsey’s Financial Institutions practice. I spent a [...]

To have better relationships at work and at home, stop criticizing, complaining about, or blaming the people in your life. I know… it’s hard. I’m working on this myself, and let’s say I’m falling short quite often (as my kids will tell me!). So what could you do instead? Make a… REQUEST. So instead of [...]

When you’re an interesting person, people want to connect with you. They want to work with you, hang out with you, or work for you. Candidly, being interesting is a major advantage in both your personal and professional lives. An interesting person can’t easily be categorized, stereotyped… or ignored. When you meet an interesting person, [...]

For the last decade, I’ve had an ongoing fascination with linguistics. I strongly believe that the words we choose to use reflect how we think. Let’s look at the word “love.” Most people use the word love in a passive sense. Examples: I fell in love. I feel love for you. In this context, love [...]

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