Success in Life

I have a confession. I talk to pigs… specifically my daughter’s guinea pigs. More specifically, they talk to me. (No, I don’t hear voices; they don’t speak English). They chirp, squeak, and squeal to communicate their wants and needs to me. Their needs almost always revolve around wanting more food or water (when my girls [...]

The other day, a friend was praising me for my accomplishments. I felt the praise was not justified. Contrary to my friend’s perception, I attribute my success to two things: 1) the ability to learn from my mistakes; 2) a high pain tolerance (that’s needed to tolerate making a great many mistakes). Step back and [...]

Most of my work involves either a corporate strategic plan or a personal strategic plan. The core of strategic planning centers around deciding on priorities and allocating resources to those priorities. A good strategic planning process is quite painful. It’s painful because resources are always constrained. This has been true in every strategic plan with which [...]

You can approach life in one of two ways. You can focus on surviving, or you can focus on thriving. There’s a time and place for both approaches. Like most things in life, neither is inherently good or bad. These approaches are merely tools — to be applied in the appropriate situation. More than approaches [...]

When my oldest daughter was four years old, she would constantly blurt out all her problems. “I am hungry.” “I want my doll.” “I am cold.” She got very good at talking about the problems. She kept expecting me and her mother to solve all her problems for her. I finally got tired of this [...]

I was in Chicago recently, hosting a dinner meeting for members of my Inner Circle mentorship program. During dinner, someone asked me a profound question: “Victor, do you consider yourself successful?” For most questions, I can answer off the top of my head with barely a thought. For this question, I had to think about [...]

Here’s a simple ritual to help improve your EQ skills — especially if you’re managing or collaborating with other people. When you make a mistake, do two things: 1) Acknowledge and take responsibility for the mistake; 2) Do what you can to rectify the situation. It’s impossible to be perfect 100% of the time. When [...]

In my 20s, my mental orientation was on the here and now. I counted time in months and years. In my 40s, my mental orientation has taken on a much wider timescale. I spend as much time thinking about the past and future as I do the present. In many respects, they are one and [...]

In about a year, my oldest daughter will begin to learn how to drive. As part of her learning process, I’ve been teaching her the various driver controls in the car, the rules of the road, and driving decision-making principles. One conversation, in particular, stood out in my mind. It was a conversation where I [...]

There are three ways to argue with someone: Tell them why they are wrong Tell them why they are wrong, and why you are right Share a different perspective The first approach involves telling the other person all the ways their thinking is wrong, stupid, and clearly flawed. If you are in a debate competition, [...]

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